But Yeshua called them and said, “You know that among the Goyim, those who are supposed to rule them become tyrants, and their superiors become dictators. Among you, it must not be like that. On the contrary, whoever among you wants to be a leader must become your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave! For the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve — and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mattityahu/Matthew 20:25-28 (CJB)
Y’shua’s mission was to show us how to serve others. Look at the different personalities of his followers, focusing on the 12 closest disciples. Each one was different and had to be taught differently. Kefa/Peter had an inclination to always act or speak before thinking about what he did … this is the bull in a china shop mentality. This type of individual usually regrets their actions after the fact. The next type of personality is one who seeks the spotlight, not necessarily demeaning others but pursuing their own agenda. This would include the two brothers, Ya’akov/James and Yochanan/John. This mindset is apparently instilled in them by their mother. Their first course of action is to defend the Teacher as he is their supplier and sustainer. Protecting the one who takes care of them has a self serving motivation but not necessarily selfishness. Another character trait is the quiet type who is supportive, remains in the background and is faithful, this would cover most of the rest of the 12 closest students/followers. These traits are of the team player mentality, they know their role and they do their best to use their talents and abilities to further the relationship. One would never see them seeking the limelight as it is out of character for them to do so. Lastly we have the one who attempts to persuade or force the hand of the other, so that they will do what is perceived to be the right course for achieving success. Part of this personality trait stems from a strong emotional will and is always pushing what they believe will accomplish the desired goal of those affected. Y’hudah/Judas expresses this type of personality in his actions (see our teaching “Pieces Of Silver”) and many times the consequences end up being the opposite of what was intended. Many of these types have similarities as they believe what they are doing is in the best interest of everyone involved.
Take the above character traits as they are dealt with by the husband using the following pattern: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) In using this template for unity, the husband is seeking to provide guidance and direction for their relationship. In so doing he is serving his household with strong moral actions. Everything a husband does should be grounded in the context of taking care of his family. Sometimes he must put his foot down and say no because he cannot act simply on his feelings but must also use his mind logically. At times the wife will not understand why her husband disagrees with her.
As an example – let us examine the three Patriarchs; Avraham, Yitz’chak/Isaac, and Ya’akov/Jacob. Avraham displayed his loyalty in marriage to Sarah by remaining with her though she was barren. How many men today would stay with a wife who could not have children. During most of their lives together, they probably did not know which of them was unable to be a parent. Eventually we discover that Avraham was not sterile as he fathered a child with Hagar. Avraham even goes as far as acquiescing to Sarah’s desire to be a mother by whatever means possible. However this was not Yah’s plan for working with a people He chose to represent Him. Another idea to present is that Avraham likely viewed Yishma’el as Sarah’s son, not Hagar’s, which fits the theme of substitute conception for a barren woman. For all the years Avraham went without children he showed his patience and endurance because he trusted the Eternal and loved his wife.
Yitz’chak obviously is a much more mild mannered man and allows his wife to be more active. This does not mean that he was a weak man. His drawback was not recognizing Yah’s plan for him and his descendants would focus not on the strong … but the weak. Therefore he could not see that Ya’akov was to be the son to carry out this plan, this was because Yitz’chak thought the stronger willed Esav was leadership material. Unfortunately the honor and integrity of Yitz’chak blinded him to the flaws of his older son. In no way are we declaring that Esav had no redeeming values but that he would not serve the overall design of the Almighty. Did Yitz’chak overlook Ya’akov as he was to much of a mirror image of himself ? Sometimes we do not see how our own shortcomings can be overcome so that the intended outcome can be achieved. In the end the father must play the hand that has been dealt him because of his very honor and integrity. A strong willed wife has set a course for her son who is most like his father, the man she loves.
Ya’akov, a man very similar to his father, must accept the consequences of his actions against his brother and father. Like his father, Ya’akov is somewhat malleable – which allows his mother to manipulate him into doing something he knew was not appropriate. Regardless of the fact that his mother was told by Yah, her younger son would be the conduit through which the Promise to Avraham would take place; problems arise because of the method used to achieve this goal. Several people get hurt because of this episode. The younger twin/son has to flee for fear of his life to go to another land for safety and to acquire his own wife. Ironically Ya’akov ends up with two sisters and their handmaids as wives. These two sisters fit the very same models of the personalities of his father and mother, like he and his brother. One is easy going and responsible while the other is outgoing and strong willed. Leah is similar to Ya’akov and his father in her demeanor while Rachel is like Esav and his mother. Of course Ya’akov is more attracted to Rachel as she is his opposite in most aspects. Her sister Leah is to much like her husband so he establishes a barrier between them, she is the one that actually demonstrates her love to Ya’akov. In fact these two sisters will give birth to the two sons whose progeny continue to be at odds with each other. Y’hudah is like his mother Leah, while Yosef is similar to Rachel. This picture can still be seen in their descendants today. One brothers children will not initiate conflict but they will not hesitate to protect themselves, this is Y’hudah/Jews. On the other hand Yosef ‘s offspring may not start a fight outright but may very well instigate it.
What is the sign of a husband loving and providing for his wife and his family? Enduring unpleasant circumstances for the greater good of his household, is one of these. In good times and bad, the head of the household must always keep in mind what is best for his family. Moral character must be based on an accepted foundational premise. For those reading this teaching, that cornerstone is the writings commonly referred to as the Holy Scriptures. Torah is the basis for all Scripture and if separated from this idea, the rest of the writings have no standing.
Now this is the commandment, the statute and the judgments which YAHWEH your Elohim commanded to teach you, to do them in the land to which you are crossing over, to possess it, that you might fear YAHWEH your Elohim, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you; you, and your son, and your son’s son, all the days of your life; and that your days may be prolonged. Hear, then, O Israel, and take heed to do it, that it may be well with you, that you may increase greatly, as YAHWEH the Elohim of your fathers has promised you, in the land flowing with milk and honey. Hear, O Israel, YAHWEH our Elohim is YAHWEH echad. And you shall love YAHWEH your Elohim with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. And these Words which I am commanding you today shall be on your heart. And you shall diligently teach them to your sons, and shall speak of them as you sit in your house, and as you walk in the way, and as you are lying down, and as you are rising up. And you shall bind them for a sign on your hand; and they shall be for frontlets between your eyes. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house, and on your gates. And it shall be, when YAHWEH your Elohim shall bring you into the land which He has sworn to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give to you great and good cities, which you have not built, and houses full of every good thing which you have not filled, and wells dug which you did not dig, vineyards and olive yards which you did not plant; and you shall eat and be satisfied; then you shall be on guard that you do not forget YAHWEH who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slaves. You shall fear YAHWEH your Elohim, and you shall serve Him, and you shall swear by His name. You shall not go after other gods, of the Elohim of the people who are around you, for YAHWEH your Elohim is a jealous Elohim in your midst, lest the anger of YAHWEH your Elohim burn against you, and He destroy you from off the face of the earth. You shall not test YAHWEH your Elohim as you tested Him in Massah. Diligently, you shall keep the commandments of YAHWEH your Elohim, and His testimonies, and His statutes which He has commanded you. And you shall do the right thing and the good thing in the eyes of YAHWEH, so that it may be well with you, and that you may go in and possess the good land which YAHWEH has sworn to your fathers, to drive out all your enemies from before you, as YAHWEH has spoken. When your son asks you hereafter, saying, What are the testimonies and the statutes and the judgments which YAHWEH your Elohim has commanded you? Then you shall say to your son, We were Pharaoh’s slaves in Egypt, and YAHWEH brought us out of Egypt with a strong hand. And YAHWEH gave signs and great and grievous wonders on Egypt, on Pharaoh, and on all his household, before our eyes. And He has brought us out from there in order to bring us in, to give us the land which He had sworn to our fathers. And YAHWEH commanded us to do all these statutes, to fear YAHWEH our Elohim for our good forever, to keep us alive, as today. And it shall be righteousness for us when we take heed to do all this commandment before YAHWEH our Elohim, as He has commanded us. D’varim/Deuteronomy 6:1-25 (HRB)
The chapter above, like all of Torah, is a husband talking to his wife; this is marital language. For your husband [is] your maker, his name [is] Yahweh of hosts; and your redeemer [is] the holy one of Israel, he is called the God of all of the earth. Yesha’yahu/Isaiah 54:5 (LEB) “Behold, days are coming”—it is a declaration of Adonai—“when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah— not like the covenant I made with their fathers in the day I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt. For they broke My covenant, though I was a husband to them.” it is a declaration of Adonai. Yirmeyahu/Jeremiah 31:31-32 (TLV) “Yet the number of the children of Yisra’ĕl shall be as the sand of the sea, which is not measured nor counted. And it shall be in the place where it was said to them, ‘You are not My people,’ they shall be called, ‘You are the sons of the living Ěl.’ And the children of Yehuḏah and the children of Yisra’ĕl shall be gathered together, and appoint for themselves one head, and shall come up out of the earth, for great is the day of Yizre‛ĕl! Say to your brothers, ‘O my people,’ and to your sisters, ‘O, compassioned one.’ Strive with your mother, strive, for she is not My wife, nor am I her Husband! Let her put away her whorings from her face, and her adulteries from between her breasts, lest I strip her naked, and shall set her up as on the day she was born, and shall make her like a wilderness, and shall set her like a dry land, and shall put her to death with thirst. And I shall not have compassion on her children, for they are the children of whorings. For their mother has whored, she who conceived them has acted shamelessly. For she said, ‘I go after my lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool and my linen, my oil and my drink.’ Therefore, see, I am hedging up your way with thorns, and I shall wall her in, so that she does not find her paths. And she shall pursue her lovers but not overtake them, and shall seek them but not find them. Then she shall say, ‘Let me go and return to my first husband, for then it was better for me than now.’ And she did not acknowledge that I gave her grain, and new wine, and oil, and increased her silver and gold which they prepared for Ba‛al. 9“Therefore I shall turn back and shall take my grain in its time and My new wine in its season, and I shall take away My wool and My linen covering her nakedness. And now I shall uncover her shame before the eyes of her lovers, and no one shall deliver her from My hand. And I shall cause all her rejoicing, her festivals, her New Moons, and her Sabbaths, even all her appointed times, to cease, and lay waste her vines and her fig trees, of which she has said, ‘these are my rewards that my lovers have given me.’ And I shall make them a forest, and the beasts of the field shall eat them. And I shall punish her for the days of the Ba‛als to which she burned incense and adorned herself with her rings and jewelry, and went after her lovers, and forgot Me,” declares יהוה. Therefore, see, I am alluring her, and shall lead her into the wilderness, and shall speak to her heart, and give to her vineyards from there, and the Valley of Aḵor as a door of expectation. And there she shall respond as in the days of her youth, as in the day when she came up from the land of Mitsrayim. And it shall be, in that day,” declares יהוה, “that you call Me ‘My Husband,’ and no longer call Me ‘My Ba‛al.’ And I shall remove the names of the Ba‛als from her mouth, and they shall no more be remembered by their name. And in that day I shall make a covenant for them with the beasts of the field, and with the birds of the heavens, and with the creeping creatures of the ground, when bow, and sword, and battle I break from the earth. And I shall make them lie down in safety. And I shall take you as a bride unto Me forever, and take you as a bride unto Me in righteousness, and in right-ruling, and kindness and compassion. And I shall take you as a bride unto Me in trustworthiness, and you shall know יהוה. And it shall be in that day that I answer,” declares יהוה, “that I answer the heavens, and they answer the earth, and the earth answer the grain and the new wine and the oil, and they answer Yizre‛ĕl. And I shall sow her for Myself in the earth, and I shall have compassion on her who had not obtained compassion. And I shall say to those who were not My people, ‘You are My people,’ while they say, ‘My Elohim!’ ” Hoshea 1:10-2:23 (ISR98)
The above passages of Scripture are dealing with a husband taking back and unfaithful wife. Torah clearly states that if a woman has been sent away from her first husband and another takes her for his wife, that under no circumstances can the first husband remarry her. Yet the Prophets constantly proclaim that Yah will take back the adulteress wife He married at Mount Sinai. Anyone who believes there is going to be a new wife, does not know what Scripture is saying. Therefore Y’shua’s death was to fulfill the requirement that the marriage was over … so the bride could then be remarried to her first husband. Two things that must be remembered are – the spouses must be the same that were married in the first place (see our teaching “The Mystery & Ewe”). This can only happen if the husband dies and is resurrected from the dead. Isra’el is the bride/wife and that is the WHOLE HO– USE of ISRA’EL, all 12 tribes together. So how much does a husband love his wife? Is it as much as Yah loves His wife? How many are willing to die for the sake of their wife?
With the help of the Ruach HaKodesh, written by:
Bernard Yosef Honigfort with the assistance of Rabbi Danny Palmer
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